BE YOURSELF

This is a follow up blog/reminder blog for yesterdays BlogTalk Radio Show that I did. You can listen to the show HERE. My apologies about the first minute and 20 seconds as I was having some trouble but if you stream to 1.20 then the show starts! On the upside the sound quality is much better this week!

1. YOU ARE OK EXACTLY AS YOU ARE RIGHT NOW!

Give yourself a break and accept who you are and where you are right now in your life! It is very important! It will bring some relief for you, different levels of relief for different people depending on how hard you are on yourself! It is important to cut yourself a break and tell yourself that you are ok, right now, no matter what. It doesn't matter how bad you think things are or how bad you think you may have been. It is ok! Now you know its ok you can move forward with some clarity and get prepared to be YOU! 

2. DEFINE WHO YOU ARE ON YOUR TERMS

Many people are going through life expressing personality traits that feel awful and not right. They are just personality traits that they have picked up along the way and used them so much they have turned into habits and could not be further away from who they actually are! Sit down and decide what personality traits you want! How do you know which personality traits are really yours? The personality trait that feels good to you when you express it, is who you really are. The one that feels bad is not who you are. For example if you have a ‘temper’ and when you express that trait and it makes you feel awful once it has been expressed that is not who you are. If you are confident and you feel great when you express that trait then that is who you really are! A great way to really help you define yourself is to sit down and write out ten personality traits that feel great to you and you want to get in the habit of expressing easily and freely! For example-

1.Confidence

Charm

Loving

Funny

Understanding

Enthusiastic 

Courageous

Determined

Friendly

Grateful

You have to write down the traits that feel good to YOU, not ones that other people think you are! That is why this tip is called define yourself on YOUR TERMS.

 Once you have given some considerate thought to your ten traits write down next to each one of those traits how you are going to foster them! For example when I decided being a confident person was who I really am I wrote down that I would remember my posture and stand up straight, I would be conscious of the tonality of my voice as when I was in a situation where I had no confidence I would talk very softly and people couldn't hear me so I had to remember to talk as I normally did, I also read books on how to develop confidence. When I was confident I felt great and could express myself easily and freely! But when I was not confident I felt terrible and stifled as a person and I knew that being confident was who I really was! 

3. STOP SEEKING APPROVAL

Constantly acting in a certain way to draw out approval from others is one of the quickest ways to move away from who you really are! When I say drawing out approval I mean- trying to please everyone and worrying about other peoples reactions or judgements towards you! Some of us get into the nasty habit of those things and like everything people do it to varying degrees but no matter how much or how little you do it- STOP IT. When you honestly and openly be yourself and are happy being yourself it does not matter what others think of you, nor is it any of your business what others think of you just as it is not other peoples place to judge you! You owe nobody nothing! You do not need to act in a certain way to meet peoples expectations or ideas about you because no doubt they are false! All you need to do is meet your own expectations! Always look after yourself and remember the only person you need approval from is YOURSELF. You’re number one priority is your happiness and although you might enjoy pleasing other people it must never be at the expense of yourself. If a person cannot accept you for who you are and what you do if you are truly being yourself it is their problem... not yours! 

4. TRUST YOURSELF

Trusting yourself is a great way to also stop trying to get approval from others. Try making some decisions on your own and trust that you made the right decision! Do what feels right for you and don't do what feels not so great! You are smarter, more capable, courages, powerful, strong and have more opportunity than you know! You, no matter who you are, should never underestimate the amazing person that is you. Why wouldn't you trust yourself? No one knows what is best for you better than YOU. It is your life, it is all you so trust you.

5. ENLIST SOME HELP

If you have some supportive friends or family let them know what you are doing and that these are your ten traits YOU have deiced you want to keep developing within yourself and if they could help point out when you ‘slip up’ or help remind you to ‘be yourself’! Your friend or family member will no doubt be very excited to help you along and probably even do the exercise with you! Dont let them dissuade you from what you are doing and if they ask why you are doing it in the first place have the courage to continue! Friends who support you and are all too happy to see you shine will always lend a helping hand so dont be afraid to ask!

Don't forget to check out the whole show HERE if you have not already! Have fun being yourself because no doubt you are actually truly amazing!